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This person will actually "demonstrate" how he feels through his actions (and this is a good thing), but he is less likely to say how he feels and if he does, it will be said one time and that's it. American men typically know that hugs and affection are expected and understand that women want this---at least the ones I have dated.
This guy really doesn't understand the need for hugs and a whole lot of affection outside intimate settings. :-) I know this is a difference based on conversations with my other Nigerian friends who have expressed to me they don't get the romantic/affection stuff.
I know that sounds harsh, but I can’t understand why some Nigerian men are searching for love on dating sites when there are so many gorgeous, smart, hardworking Nigerian women a stone’s throw from them (I read the blogs of some of these women so I know they exist! I can understand wanting a better life abroad, but why not find yourself a nice woman at home and then go abroad together and work on that better life together like our parents did (for those of us born in North America)?
It’s like these men are trying to give themselves a running head start and pick a woman who will save them years of working hard to get established or get permanent residency or citizenship, and something about that grates on my nerves.
Imagine doing that while looking after a five other people, two who are in elementary school and trying to adjust to the Canadian system after being in the Nigerian school system, two who are toddlers and a wife who is working to keep everyone healthy and alive. So yes, I bristle at the thought that a guy is looking abroad for love when he could find something magical in Naija.
The long working hours, the endless traffic and the pressure to keep up appearances in a city that idolises wealth often leave people exhausted by the weekends, which are packed with lavish weddings and lengthy church services. Tinder, a dating app where users reject or select potential partners by swiping left or right, has not proved as popular in Lagos as it is with time-poor young people elsewhere.
“Friends thought I was insane or looking to be murdered,” says a female lawyer.
I am Good Naija Girl and I am looking for love on the internet. ) I chose the internet not because I think online love is particularly romantic, but because I live in an area where the kind of man I want to meet (Nigerian, preferably Yoruba, legally able to live in Canada (this is a new requirement o!
), university educated (or in the process of getting an education), 35 years of age or less) is an extinct species (and I have the testimonies of a few friends to prove it).
For those who dare, men mostly find “runs girls” (aka sugar babies) looking for rich boyfriends to buy them gifts, or outright prostitutes. “The first time I signed up…I saw three guys I knew who were married,” says Efua Oyofo, who runs the blog Dating While Nigerian.