Celibacy while dating
That would be kind of weird and situationally akward. So, if you say you’re celibate, but you spend the night at his place (in his bed) and vice versa that is not sending the right message to him or to yourself. There are really only a few ways that men handle the information – they accept it and give a relationship a try (these responses are few in number 🙂 ), they reject you and the idea OR they see your lifestyle as a personal challenge to prove to they still have it – whatever “it” is. My personal preference is to wait until he mentions sex. So I asked two of my celibate friends – 1 male, 1 female. A few years ago Lyfe Jennings recorded a song entitled Statistics – some of the lyrics are: “ Whether you tell him you are celibate immediately, after the first date or when he initiates the topic of sex, you have to mean what you say. When you behave in a way that doesn’t correspond to what you are saying, you can’t be surprised when a man tries to go a little to far. smh The latter response is one that I feel is more prevalent than even the straight out rejection, which is what I would prefer. If he has honorable intentions and thinks you are special, he will give celibacy a serious try. You also may have some questions about how to talk about sex with the person you’re dating. Also, you’ll want to clearly state your requirements. It’s important to make this distinction because you don’t want to associate sex with shame or guilt in your mind or the mind of your potential partner.
It was as if God Himself sat on my finger reminding me of my commitment and helping me to keep it.
A few things are important: Making the covenant with God. Go out with a group of friends – coupled up if you like – who have a like-minded spirit.