Dating an ugly but nice guy
"It's ridiculous to believe that women are as interested in me as in my good-looking mates." So says Ugly Guy, sitting with a paper bag over his head. I'm sure women are just as capable of being shallow and swayed by looks as us guys (although we do it so well! But the more I read about Ug the more I think that the key factor here is not looks, but confidence. He says she stared at him with an expression that said, "Not only are you ugly, but you are an absolute idiot."I don't think she bothered with the first part of that thought process.
I've every sympathy with a bloke who thinks he's not getting the girls because of his less than dazzling looks. But Christ, isn't this just a little bit defeatist? I bumped into a very good friend at a wedding the other day. I think she moved straight to "you're a humourless idiot.
I just mean these ladies were normal, pretty women, and their partners were so very on the opposite side of the spectrum.
I pointed out this realization to my sister and asked if she was as unsurprised by it as I was.
But good-looking or not with that line of banter he wouldn't have lasted long.
One thing I will say for Ug is that he's not afraid to change sides when the boot is on the other foot. In fact, I've dated my way down the ugly tree stopping at every branch on the way if the truth be known.
Our looks are put under a microscope on a daily, if not hourly, basis.
If we’re told the only way we’re going to be appealing to the opposite sex is to “put our best face forward,” we’re obviously going to see personal maintenance as a high priority.
But my smug grin soon wore off when I caught one of them trying to give him her phone number on my way back from the loo. I know the paper bag over the head is a joke but come on, look at those slumped shoulders, the 'poor me' posture. Looks-wise he's a bit like chopped liver but there he was happily introducing me to his latest hot conquest. Well, he's funny, he writes, he sings, he plays the odd instrument and makes a decent living from it. Next."Would she have been as swift to bin a humourless hunk? A quick meaningless shag is a quick meaningless shag. Ug, on the other hand, reveals that when he went on a speed dating he "tried his best" to be humorous and told his first date he was a pole-vaulter.I was sitting in a Spanish restaurant in Alphabet City with my little sister.
She was in town for the weekend from Boston, and I was treating her to shrimp stew, churros and the tales of my not-so-glamorous life in NYC.
But unfortunately, when I say good looking doesn't necessarily equate to sexy, that's not to say it can't equate to sexy.