Dating who pays the bill
But it remains a double standard, since more women, about half, believe a man should pay more if he makes more.“It’s a totally different world, and it’s an expensive world,” Lever, the sociologist, said. About half of surveyed men said the initiator should pay.Although meant to show how much he cared for her, his splurges made her feel obligated to hang out with him — and created rifts in the relationship.They fought over his domineering spending style, and, frustrated, they eventually quit shopping together. A recent study presented at the American Sociological Association’s annual meeting suggests the answer is far from clear in our collective mind.And, evidently, a lot of women like it this way; 44 percent said they were bothered when men expected them to kick in some cash.
When his 21-year-old sister heard this, she was delighted. The study, which surveyed more than 17,000 unmarried heterosexual men and women, found that 84 percent of men and 58 percent of women said men pay for most dating expenses, even after the relationship has been cooking for a while.
“The rules of courtship are in the transitional period,” said Diane Mapes, a dating expert and author of “How to Date in a Post-Dating World.” “There is a lot of confusion and frustration — and expectation out there.” That’s likely why guys tend to follow the trusted traditional etiquette — at first.
But it’s becoming a courtesy for gals to offer after that. But tossing them an offer throws them into a fool’s game: If guys accept or refuse, they risk offending gals.
He later proved to be controlling and jealous — which triggered their eventual breakup.
“I feel uncomfortable if a guy pays for everything,” said the 24-year-old Hoock, now a business consultant for IBM.
Meanwhile, nearly two-thirds of men believe women should contribute, and 44 percent went so far as to say that they would stop seeing a woman who never reached for the bill.