Men dating women 10 years younger
When it came to finding love in New York, Amber Soletti, a 42-year-old who lives in the West Village, had no luck dating older guys or men her own age.While they were “well-established and articulate,” she wasn’t physically attracted to them and found they had too many issues.Also note that this was not because I had some notion that we would end up together long-term, but rather because I was embarrassed to be seen in public with him because of our age difference. At the time, I thought that people would judge us and stare, or even worse, someone might mistake him for my son.In reality, strangers hardly know there is much of an age difference between us, and they're almost certainly unaware that the difference is about 12.5 years — an age gap that is taboo in our culture.They were introduced by Sutherland’s sister, who was one of Wipp’s law school classmates, at a beachside barbecue.Wipp was immediately attracted to Sutherland’s youthful energy, which was a far cry from the cynical guys closer to her age.(Correct: there isn’t one.)So, after grappling with my own insecurities and the societal taboos, there were also the judgments of friends and family.
What is the equivalent of "cougar" for a man who has a younger partner?Prior to meeting Siegner in 2012, Angal was a tour manager for a music company and had a lifestyle he describes as “sex, drugs and rock ’n’ roll.” He mostly dated party girls in their 20s.But when he was set up with Siegner by a mutual friend, matchmaker Sameera Sullivan, he says his life turned around.So, six years ago, she started dating studs in their 20s and 30s — and she hasn’t looked back.
“Younger guys tend to be more active, have less baggage,” says Soletti, an event planner who regularly hosts dating mixers.
Before I realized the depth of others' judgments about our “taboo” relationship, I first had to get over my own insecurities about being with someone over a decade younger.