Parisian men dating
In six weeks I went from that lady at dinner parties with an adoring husband whispering, “You are the most beautiful woman in the room” to single mom-dom.
I met a congressman who had been a doctor before joining politics and still couldn’t figure out how his last girlfriend had gotten pregnant, making him the 55-year old dad of an infant.
My friends in the US had warned me that online dating is a nightmare. A site for only good-looking people, at least I’d be able to look at the guy, but I was raw and afraid of rejection. There is a French version, but I wasn’t looking for a father for future children and didn’t want to limit myself.
Men want young girls, or mothers to help them with their kids, or just a one-night stand. Adopte a Mec (Adopt a Dude in English) sounded great: young, fun, and with a great sense of humor.
As much as American girls may complain about the state of dating, sex, courtship, and guys, at least we can read the signals on our own home turf.
(Whether we want to believe them is a different matter.) But over here in Paris, where the word “dating” literally does not exist in the French vocabulary, understanding male/female relationships is all the more confusing.
I also received a call asking that we change our meeting place from a caf I know many expat women living in Paris who have met their match online.