Shy guys and online dating
With that in mind I thought I'd try to be even more helpful and write a whole article outlining what it's like to be a man who's really shy and inexperienced with women.
At the end I give a few thoughts on what to do if there's a shy guy in your life you're interested in.
This could mean feeling too anxious to start a conversation with an attractive stranger they've just noticed at a party. Some shy guys, especially younger ones, have had a crush on someone for years and years, and have never worked up the nerve to talk to her.
The occasional time that someone they fancy talks to them first they often get too flustered, and the resulting brief conversation consists of some stuttered half-coherent answers on their part.
At other time they can force themselves to do it, but they're a total wreck inside the whole time.
One problem that can plague shyer guys is that sometimes their nervousness doesn't appear when they first meet a girl, but comes back to bite them soon after.
That's not to say a shy guy won't sometimes be able to chat to someone he's into, but it's relatively rare.
Sometimes they just won't get nervous around someone for whatever mysterious reason.
Sometimes this nervousness shows up as the physical symptoms of anxiety.
Dating advice is outside the scope of this site, with this article being a semi-exception.
Over the years several women have written me to tell me reading this site has helped them understand the actions of a shy guy they were pursuing.
The first is when a guy simply sees a girl around a few times and makes confident eye contact with her.
She seems attracted and intrigued and like she's waiting for the guy to approach her.
I also wrote a follow up to this article on some of the unique issues shy women struggle with.