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I was constantly asked if we were dating but never knew quite what to say, as I wasn't sure myself!
I'd made it totally obvious that I was into him, but he was sending constant mixed signals.” In the end, Nina couldn’t deal with this guy anymore and met someone who was actually good for her.
“They may like a lot of things about the person and want to be in a relationship with him/her, so they brush certain red flags (like bad behavior) under the carpet, desperately hoping that nicer qualities will emerge eventually.” Truth is, the chances of someone changing drastically are slim to none.
“Hoping for a person's potential is a pretty futile endeavor,” Steinberg says.
So many of us have been there: the nicest person is head over heels for you, and sometimes you wonder if you don’t feel the same way—even though you just like that person as a friend.
“Sometimes I want to slap myself silly because I have such a wonderful opportunity to be in a relationship, but I have NO attraction to this man, Michael*,” says Emily*, a senior at the University of Scranton.
As a psychologist in New York City, I hear about a lot of first dates.
I love hearing people say, “It was love at first sight,” or, “By the time our first date ended, I knew I just met the man I was going to spend the rest of my life with.” But I rarely do.
“I'm guilty of taking dates far more seriously than they need to be taken,” says Amy*, a senior at Messiah College.
“I think there's probably a thrill for some women to be admired, liked and desired, even by guys/gals they are not interested in,” says Neely Steinberg, a dating coach and founder of The Love TREP. “The best way to go about dating is to get clear on why [you] are dating in the first place,” says Lesli Doares, Marriage Consultant, Coach and Licensed Marriage Family Therapist.
So if you’re seeing someone simply because you’re feeling lonely or you enjoy the attention, you might need to question your motives.
When you’ve been single for a while (and possibly watched too many rom coms), it’s totally normal to want a special someone in your life.
A problem arises when the person who is directly available is the not the right one for you.
Obviously, your dream SO is pretty hard to find, so you convince yourself that the person you’re seeing is good enough, or will change in time.